That’s fair – and hey, every once in awhile it works.Alas, most of the time, it doesn’t, according to this study by Randy Olson, which looks at certain factors in how long marriages last: The charts on the linked page talk about correlation, not causation, which is an important distinction.It’s not a huge shock when these relationships don’t work out.
This is a wonderful story and proof that a broken clock is right twice a day. I just find it far more important to share facts than feelings.
It’s important to say this up front because, somehow, folks seem to take great offense whenever they’re told that their way of finding love is somehow suboptimal. You may FEEL that you should “just know” when you’ve met your “soulmate” and when you have that feeling, you should both just lock it in as quickly as possible.
During Imperial China, becoming a scholar was a huge priority because it meant wealth and status for families (which in turn meant better marriage matches).
Over time, the difficult scholar exams were transformed into Modern China’s college entrance exam 高考 (gāo kǎo.) Gao Kao is a standardized exam that determines what university you can enter (and whether you can even enter university).
Just know that these marriages fail two-thirds of the time also!
But as most married couples will often tell you, it is a natural progression and changes are what the both of you will have to expect after marriage.
Of course, every individual relationship is different.
The most generic and straightforward answer is that your relationship with the Western person is going to be more casual.
Second, black men are three to four times more likely than black women to marry outside of the race.
Black women are the for every 100 college educated black females, there are approximately 60 comparably educated black males.
My name is Cheryl Judice and I am a sociologist who studies race, social class and marriage in contemporary American society, specifically marriages between African Americans and whites.