And, if they are anything like me, they replay these failures in their minds several times after the event.
Combined, the points below will describe a guy who's really, really inhibited and awkward around women.
Not all shy men will have issues that intense or have every characteristic apply to them.
But as I have come to learn, all it takes is learning the right techniques and a bit of practice.
Just as those who struggle with math can learn and improve, you too can improve your social skills with a little bit of effort! Most people who have social anxieties know exactly how they come across to people, where their conversational abilities fall short, and they recognize when an interaction has failed.
Following are seven of these apparent weaknesses, and how, when used right, they are actually strengths. Say you encounter a really difficult problem at work.
If you make a snap or reactionary decision, you can find yourself in a world of trouble fast. If you appear to be an ordinary joe, people can feel more comfortable in approaching you at work or a social gathering.In many cases, having an innocent or good appearance can be a great trait to have for an up-and-coming leader. Though it is scary for them, shy people can become effective public speakers and leaders for this reason. Being shy teaches us from an early age how to overcome barriers. In fact, even as a lawyer in his early 30s, he was so shy that he could barely speak in front of a judge.He was obviously very unsuccessful, until he found the right cause.Sometimes, thinking things through for a few days and considering them from multiple different angles is in fact the best route. While being meek is not necessarily praised in Western society, it can be a social strength. Other people will notice that you do not say a whole heck of a lot, and very often they choose to view shy people as simply being more calm. Shy people appear to be vulnerable and easily taken advantage of by others, which can be the case in work environments that reward the most aggressive competitors.Compare this to a person who is really aggressive and outspoken – no one wants to go near that guy. In American society, where people are more often rewarded for “tooting their own horn,” being quiet and calm can have a profound positive impact on other people. However, for various human-service-oriented jobs such as working with mentally disabled people, counseling, or therapy, appearing vulnerable causes other people to open up to you more, which is a great benefit to have in your life if you are going to be successful in these lines of work. Shy people can appear to others to be innocent or good. If she isn't speaking too much at first, it's not because she's disinterested.