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Jennifer's, Samantha's and John's concerns are common, because according to the U. Census Bureau, 19.3 million Americans get divorced each year, and many of them date and eventually remarry.
Perhaps you share their concerns, as you're also wondering how you can reenter the dating world after divorce — and do so according to God's standards. Divorce is the death of the dreams you had when you committed yourself "for better or for worse." As a Christian, you can't simply separate from your spouse one day and hit the dating field the next.
A heart that doesn't submit to listening to the law will be hardened against any call to repentance—that’s the death-knell of any godly relationship. Unless regularly reminded of the grace of Christ, the heart will begin to sink into sin, go into hiding, and find its deepest affirmation in things other than Christ—like an idolatrous focus on your relationship, for instance. ) into an idol, you want them weekly pouring out their hearts in praise to their true Redeemer and Savior.
Third, the Word of God truly preached brings us by the power of the Spirit into the presence of Christ. You also want your significant other to have communion with the body of Christ outside of your own relationship. Did you note the developing trend in the four points above?
Like Jennifer, she needs some advice but is concerned about how she can make the transition into dating easy on her children. He'd like to date again, and some of his friends say he should start looking for a woman now — after all, he's getting divorced soon.
But John knows better because he's still married, and dating now would go against God's desires.
Realizing that practical steps matter, most often they want tips or steps they can take to build their relationship in Christ. (Protip: this last one is definitely not a winning approach.) At that point, one of the first things I usually tell them is that there's really no “biblical theology” of dating tucked away the book of 4:5-20. This can actually become a problem, especially because you're not actually married.
There are some rather obvious tips like praying for each other in your daily devotions, encouraging each other to read the Scriptures, setting appropriate boundaries (emotional, spiritual, and so on), and pursuing sexual holiness. These devotions together can develop into a couple-centered spirituality that begins to replace the church-centered relationship with God that the New Testament actually prescribes.
An issue of divide developing among Christians on dating is whether you should only move in this direction with someone you intend to marry.
The motivation behind this thought is fear and insecurity.
I've been working in youth ministry in some capacity for roughly eight years, and this is one of the most common questions I've fielded from young Christians: “How can (insert boyfriend/girlfriend) and I have a Christian dating relationship? ” As often I've heard it, I still love the the heart behind the question.