September 28, 2015 (Break Point) -- Ronald Reagan once quipped that the trouble with his political opponents, “is not that they are ignorant.
It’s just that they know so much that isn’t so.” Well, I’ve had a bee in my bonnet for years over something that far too many of my fellow Christians believe in that just isn’t so.
My mother had given me a copy of “Passion & Purity” and asked me to read it. The second reason I was distrustful was the subtitle: “Learning to bring your love life under Christ’s control.” I didn’t want my love life under control. Jesus is Lord so go tell the Aucas in Ecuador about him.
In my mind she stood in the way of me being with my girlfriend — or, more specifically, me making out with my girlfriend — and I would not abide by this meddling.
Of course, Elliot knew nothing of me or my girlfriend, but she had written a book on the topic of relationships called “Passion & Purity” that threatened to disrupt my happy love life. Giving me a book was mom’s not-so-subtle way of telling me I had a problem. Jesus is Lord so let him be Lord of your love life.
Have you ever heard the fairytale about the princess in shining armor? She crosses an ocean, slays a dragon and rescues the man she loves? And don't hide behind the whole too-holy-for-love façade. His questions echoed the problem I'd heard lamented from the other side of the gender divide. Those are just two anecdotes, but they reflect a larger trend. So why are Christian men not stepping up to the plate? These days women are encouraged to be more aggressive while men risk appearing domineering if they get the ball rolling. While such political correctness is peddled in higher education and the media, it usually doesn't apply in the real world, where women still appreciate a man with the gumption and guts to make the first move.
If that's you, then I have some no-nonsense advice: It's time to man-up and take the lead in the romance department. A few weeks earlier I had received an email from a young man looking for advice. Kiesling reports her findings from an in-depth survey of 120 single Christian women. Kiesling reports: "Over and over I heard the words, 'I wish men would step up to the plate and take a risk in asking me out.'" Here is feedback that Kiesling received directly from real-world single Christian women about Christian men. First, our increasingly politically correct culture tells guys that women have equal responsibility when it comes to initiating the relationship.
Jefferson City, Missouri, is a place where it's harder for a college-educated, twentysomething, professional, Christian man to find a date than it is to find a good coffeehouse or bookstore.
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